How to Let Go of Jealousy

Some say the real test of success is whether or not a man can earn more money than his sister-in-law’s husband, LOL. 😀 It’s funny because there’s some truth to that statement. It’s human nature to be jealous of others.

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But at the end of the day envy has no upside. Being resentful of someone else is a waste of time. If we can learn to curb our jealousy then our lives will become so much better. 🙂 We will become more happy, less stressed out, and can make better decisions. Famous investor Warren Buffett once said, “As an investor, you get something out of all the deadly sins—except for envy. Being envious of someone else is pretty stupid. Wishing them badly…- All it does is ruin your day. Doesn’t hurt them at all, and there’s zero upside to it. If you’re going to pick a sin, go with something like lust or gluttony. That way at least you’ll have something to remember the weekend for.

Overcoming Jealousy

How to stop being jealous? Well we can start by not comparing ourselves to other people. Then we need to boost our self confidence, develop a more optimistic view towards others, and learn to trust and let go. Finally we have to look at the bigger picture. 😀 From an objective point of view there is little difference in relative wealth among most people in developed countries. For example, someone who makes $10/hour has access to the same essential services in life as someone else who makes $50/hour. In the grand scheme of things most people are doing fine. Simply living in North America and having access to clean water, public infrastructure, and the internet already makes us some of the richest people in the world. Anything else above and beyond like having an Apple Watch is just a luxury.

Real happiness comes from within. We should focus on our own goals and ambitions. Once we understand that true fulfilment comes from ourselves, and not from other people, then there’s no longer a need to blame others, or envy them. 😉 And that’s how I get over being jealous. Hopefully this way of thinking will help other people too. Instead of being jealous of other people we should learn to be inspired by them and work towards meaningful lives for ourselves. 🙂

 

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PC
PC
03/10/2015 8:22 am

Jealousy is human nature. No matter how we say we’re not, deep down inside we’re a tad jealous. But we all should focus on ourselves and not others like you said 🙂 I may not make much at my day job. A lot of people look down on me but I know my true self worth. Maybe it’s all in my head!

PS Love the couple pic with the husky. TOO FUNNY!

RICARDO
RICARDO
03/10/2015 9:03 am

Jealousy is part of human nature, we just have to recognize it for what it is. It has been and always will be human nature to want more or better. After all, if we did not have dreams a lot of us would just roll over and snore all day even if the old lady said we snored all night already.
I have this saying up on my wall. some times it is a good idea to take a step back to actually see what we have already and not how much we want to have.
“IT IS BETTER TO LIKE WHAT YOU HAVE THAN TO HAVE WHAT YOU LIKE”

How often do we hear of the rich and famous having psychiatric/health/romantic and even money issues. Take that step back and maybe see how well off you are compared to how well off you want to be.

RICARDO

Tawcan
03/10/2015 10:43 am

Jealousy is a human nature but if you can recognize it and be at peace with yourself, you may be able to avoid such temptation.

MashedThoughts
03/10/2015 11:36 am

You’ll never be happy if you keep comparing yourself to others but you can also turn that jealousy into something constructive and learn from that person and try to replicate their success.

RICARDO
RICARDO
03/10/2015 12:16 pm

@ Mashed;
You can be very happy comparing yourself to others if they are worst off than you.
Trying to replicate the success of people who have screwed up their lives for a few dollars more is not exactly good either.
DO you really need three big screen TVs and five cars? Maybe if you have a hotel but otherwise it is time to use your head (not the little one because it will screw you around) and appreciate what you have.

RICARDO

Clarisse @ Make Money Your Way
03/10/2015 5:57 pm

Oh, I love the picture of a jealous husky! 🙂 I think jealousy is just normal, but you need to control it or else it will bring you down.

Warren Lee
03/11/2015 9:10 am

I’ve always prided myself on being happy for other people. It can be a struggle sometimes if the other person who has more isn’t haught or arrogant about it, but in general I root people on and want them to have success. If someone is getting things I want, I’m only more motivated to go get it myself but I don’t begrudge anyone, I think that is petty.

allroundbetterme
03/11/2015 12:28 pm

Jealousy is an interesting topic. I am human, so I have been experienced the green monster, as it is sometimes referred to as. As everyone here is saying, it’s totally natural. That being said, there are good and bad kinds of jealousy. And you can take that jealousy and make it productive, or you can make it very destructive. I like the points you have made in this post, and if I notice myself being jealous of someone, I will try and return my focus to myself and my own goals. Thanks for the reminder to be mindful.

Vivianne
03/11/2015 3:43 pm

This is too funny, how the world view America now. 😛 … It’s almost like they have a race with those handicap carts. You should do a post of the American Dream then – house with garage, 2 kids, 2 stories. Now – a tiny home on a 4 wheeler, surrounded with some beat up garden, and 2 millennial smoking weeds as marijuana is legalize everywhere.

Pullingmyselfup
Pullingmyselfup
03/12/2015 4:50 pm

Jealousy awareness and discussion has its place in the community. One can easily get jealous and distracted by those who have been doing this for years who have large accounts and making large gains.

Vivien
Vivien
03/12/2015 5:09 pm
Vivianne
03/12/2015 5:25 pm

There is no keeping up with the Chinese. Like America, they have the extreme rich and powerful, then there people that making less than $1 per day somewhere in the country.

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