I recently read a financial story on MarketWatch, where a woman in her early 40s making $100,000 a year is considering a prenup because her partner makes less than she does.
This woman writes, “my girlfriend works a few gig-type jobs that she loves and makes $50,000 a year. She lives paycheck to paycheck, pretty much, and as she loves what she does, isn’t motivated to do anything else to make more.
My family isn’t thrilled about the relationship for a few reasons. My girlfriend doesn’t have a stable career. She has no ambition, and makes significantly less than I do. She understands and has said she is happy to sign a prenup.
Given all this, I need help figuring out what’s fair for the prenup and for our living situation. ”
It appears to me this person isn’t very supportive of her girlfriend’s career choice. The reason may come from a fear of losing her money. We are the product of what we experience, and she mentioned her brother is currently in the middle of a nasty divorce. His cheating and gambling estranged wife is trying to get every dime she can out of him. Not surprisingly her entire family is not thrilled about her relationship.
I don’t have any good advice for this lady. But I think marriage is about a lot more than money. If she prioritizes above anything else to be with some who has strong financial ambitions like herself, then this relationship could face many challenges ahead.
One person can make significantly more than the other and still be in a happy and practical relationship. The important thing is expectations. Love is a leap of faith. And you have to accept your partner for who they are. They’re not going to change after you get married.
Money isn’t good or evil. But it can exacerbate the current conditions of how we live with others. So I think one of the best things married couples can do is to make sure their relationship is maintained. If there are problems in the relationship, the first priority should be to deal with that. Then you can work on other problems together, whether it be financial or something else. 🙂
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